I signed up for the Princeton Half Ironman in January. It was a fast decision, but one I'd had in my subconscious since doing a couple sprints the summer before. I was filled with excitement, a healthy dose of fear, and a very clear objective to find a coach to help me prepare for a 1.2 mile swim, 56 mile bike and 13 mile run. Many of my friends told me I didn't need a coach, but I knew I did for the accountability and to make me a proper plan to really push myself.
I ran the Chicago marathon in 2004. My preparation for the marathon was laughable, but my body was strong, I was a youthful 26 and I was determined to finish. I no longer have youth on my side - thankfully, still the same strong-will. Now I have a reverence and respect for my body that carried 2 babies and logged many miles on the road and trail since that marathon. I hopefully will have the privilege to live in this body for the next 1/2 century and to be blunt, I don't do stupid things with it anymore. I wanted to do this right and maybe even do well vs. just finish.
So with this perspective in mind, I found a great coach in Laurie Hug who in addition to being a triathlon coach, is is a pro triathlete, high school and masters swim coach. With the exception of high school sports, I've never worked with a coach and none of them were the caliber of Laurie. I was going to do every workout she prescribed, hang on every piece of advice she gave me and make training a top non-negotiable priority.
Maybe some of that naivety from youth was still me when I made that mantra to myself. Things like work, kids being sick, and most unexpectedly my own ailments, have made my commitment to sticking like glue to Laurie's plan more challenging in reality than I ever dreamt. Pink eye, strep throat, stomach bugs, skin infections, a sprained ankle, allergic reactions and esophagitis all have been in my life since last April.
It's extremely frustrating when your mind says, GO! and your body says, STOP! I prayed in church, lit candles, said Hail Mary's, cried, said mantras, meditated, complained, blamed everyone around me for giving me their germs, laughed, and then finally just accepted that it is what it is, and it will be OK. If I miss a race, don't make every workout and don't reach my goals, that's all OK. Racing is a privilege and sometimes the perspective we get from things not going our way has much more impact than any PR or goal achieved.
As this was all going on Laurie was a steadfast and calm presence - exactly what I'd hoped for in a coach. She reassured me that things were fine, sympathized, adjusted my workouts, and made me realize this happens to everyone at one point or another. Below are some words she wrote on setbacks that shows her experience and wisdom in triathlon and in life.
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Triathletes tend to be type A personalities and, as such,
like to follow a regimented plan. There
is comfort in following a routine and making steady progress towards a
goal. Sometimes, however, life throws a
wrench in our plans. It may be sickness
or work or family issues that disrupt our plans. And it is easy to panic and maybe try to make
up for lost time by doubling up on workouts if we miss some training.
If one has built a strong base then small setbacks shouldn't
be of major concern. A few days or even
a week+ off really won’t make THAT much of a difference in the long run if one
has been training consistently. The time off may even be beneficial, especially
for those who tend to do a bit too much.
There is no need to try to make up these missed workouts; just get back
on track as soon as possible and back into a consistent routine.
For those with ongoing setbacks however, it may be time to
reevaluate the goals. It doesn't necessarily mean giving up on doing a certain
race but may require readjusting expectations. Maybe you are hoping to break 5 hours for a half IM but have
not been able to complete several key workouts due to sicknesses throughout the
season. Instead change the goal to
getting to the start line healthy and enjoying the day. If you break or come
close to breaking that 5 hour barrier, that becomes a bonus.
Maybe you are training for your first ironman and end up
having to travel for 2 weeks during a key training period and can only
run. An adjustment to the original
training plan may be all that is needed to get back on track. You could do a
swim/bike focus upon return while working on the run during the trip.
Maybe you break an arm while preparing for a big event and,
as a result, will no longer be able to participate. This is tough break for
sure! One way to deal with it is to still
go to the event and volunteer or cheer on your friends then plan on doing it
next year. For some though, it can
actually be harder to watch others racing than it would have been by doing the
race on less than ideal training. You
were ready to go and now will mentally have to deal with the disappointment. So that is something to keep in mind. You could use it as a way to spend more time
with family and friends or work on a project you have been wanting to do but
haven’t had time to start due to training demands.
In the end, we are ultimately doing this for fun. We are
lucky to be able to race and it is adult play. If setbacks occur we may need to
look at the big picture and realize the training we have been doing has been
helping us stay healthy and given us some purpose and a goal. Goals are just that, and sometimes we don’t
meet the ones we set. It is awesome when we do but when life gets in the way,
we usually are still better off having gone through the process than had we not
started training for an event in the first place.
I consistently feel nervous heading to swim practice because I know it's going to be a hard workout - even in the slow lane. It was a bit intimidating being in a group of people who were so fast, but it was also good. I pushed myself harder and there was no way I wasn't putting in a solid effort. I may have been last but I wasn't going to be far behind. Not gonna lie, it bruised my ego to come in last. I will use that 'bruised ego' to use that to fuel my training for the next 7 weeks before the Princeton Half Ironman. 
